Being in a Family
What does it mean to be a family? That is a loaded question. Many people think of a family as only the traditional family from 50 years ago. In their definition, family constitutes a mother, a father and a couple of kids. The truth is, families come in all different shapes and sizes. A family can be made with just two people that love each other or it can consist of an army of cousins and other people that are loosely related. To be perfectly honest, people don’t even have to be related to be family. From a technical perspective, people can only be family when they are related by blood or marriage. As far as the heart is concerned, people can be family without being any relation at all to a person. It all comes back to caring for each other and being there for that individual no matter what. That is the essence of being a family. It is what defines it and it is what sets being part of a family apart from virtually everything else.
What makes a family?
The truth of the matter is that when someone is family, you go out of your way to go to bat for that person when they are struggling. Family is much more about what people do to help each other than who is related to whom. Family members support each other during the good times and they provide encouragement and inspiration when a person needs to hear those things in order to push through to the next level. Perhaps most importantly, family members are there to support those who are close to them when everything else is falling apart. Instead of following suit, family members band together and become stronger than ever. These are the things that constitute a family.
Going Above and Beyond
Being a family also means having disagreements. No one likes to fight, especially when you are fighting with someone that you love. The reality of the situation is that people do fight. No one has the same opinions about everything and when these differences of opinion are expressed, it will inevitably lead to fights from time to time. Being a family does not mean that you are devoid of having these types of disagreements. It does mean that you can have a fight with someone in the morning and then be there to support them that afternoon. When you are a family, having a fight does not mean that you no longer speak or that you cease having any type of relationship with an individual. Instead, it usually means that you are growing as a family and as individuals. In many cases, it simply involves testing some boundaries to see how far you can go with things before you know your limits. Being a family encompasses all things. You have plenty of time to have fun together, argue with each other and cry together. You convey your frustrations to one another and somewhere along the way, if you are lucky, you will have the opportunity to be that rock that is there for someone in your family just like someone else has been there for you in the past.